Coping with the Fear of Rejection
We’ve all experienced it at one time or another. No matter how many times we try to talk ourselves up, it seems we continually fall flat on our faces.
Palms sweat, butterflies start forming and sooner or later that attractive person across the room gets up and leaves, and you never got the chance to ask for their number. The fear of rejection is within all of us, and it can be quite difficult to overcome. Luckily, there’s hope. The following guide will help you deal with the “R-word,” and overcome your fear. While I can’t guarantee it will get you a date, it will at least get you attempting to get a date!
First of all, the pain of rejection isn’t going to last forever. You would do well to remember this, because once it’s gone it’s gone. Soon, you’ll be able to look back on the incident and laugh it off like it never happened because in your mind it never did. Provided you understand that the pain will only last momentarily, you’ll be able to cope with the sting of rejection and realize that you will indeed get over it.
Another thing to keep in mind when dealing with the fear of rejection is to repeat, repeat, repeat! Asking people out gets easier with time, but you have to do it on a regular basis to get used to it. Once you’ve got enough experience under your belt, it’ll feel like second nature walking up to a person and asking them out for dinner or drinks. It will get easier as time moves forward, and your fear of being rejected won’t be such a worry anymore.
Rejection is ugly, there’s no denying that. However, constantly living in fear of this dreaded reaction isn’t going to solve your problems. Keep the above tips in mind, and you’ll soon find yourself sailing through the dating world without looking back. Your fear of rejection will diminish, and you’ll be left wondering what you were ever worried about before.
© Copyright 2007 Blindigo Magazine | Article written by Denise Shively
